Making It Work: How to Successfully Navigate Working From Home with a Nanny
Remote work has become a new reality for many families. The flexibility, lack of commute, and convenience of working from home can be incredibly valuable—especially for parents with young children. However, managing your professional responsibilities while your children are just down the hall is no easy feat.
For many families, the solution is bringing in a nanny to provide in-home care while parents work. But when everyone is under the same roof, things can get complicated. Children may struggle with boundaries, parents may feel conflicted about staying behind a closed door, and nannies may find it challenging to maintain authority.
The key to success lies in structure, communication, and mutual respect. When approached thoughtfully, working from home with a nanny can be a productive and harmonious setup for everyone involved. Here are some essential tips for making it work.
1. Defining Your Work-from-Home Dynamic
Start with a clear conversation about how the household will operate during working hours. Every work-from-home situation looks different, so it's important to define what this arrangement will look like for your family. Will you be working from a dedicated home office? Do you plan to stay in that space all day, or move throughout the house? Will you take breaks to spend time with your child, or remain largely unavailable?
Your nanny needs to know where you’ll be, what kind of availability you’ll have, and how to handle situations when your child is asking for you. Be clear about when you should be interrupted—and when you shouldn’t. If you’re in a meeting and cannot be disturbed, a simple closed door can help signal that.
Consistency is key. When boundaries are honored day after day, your child will begin to understand that even though you’re home, you're working—and your nanny is in charge.
2. Create Predictable Routines for Interaction
It’s natural to want to check in on your child during the day. But frequent, unplanned appearances can be confusing and at times emotionally difficult for children, especially younger ones. They may become upset when you leave, or refuse to settle back into the care routine with the nanny.
Instead, try setting specific, predictable times when your child knows they’ll get to see you—such as lunch, snack breaks, or a quick cuddle between meetings. This gives your child something to look forward to and helps reduce anxiety or clinginess throughout the rest of the day.
These routine moments of connection can help your child transition more smoothly between time with you and time with the nanny.
3. Equip Your Nanny with the Right Tools
Just as your workplace provides the equipment and resources you need to succeed, it’s important to ensure your nanny has the tools necessary to do her job effectively. This includes a well-stocked play area, age-appropriate toys and books, and access to outdoor space or safe areas for physical activity.
Consider setting up a toy rotation system to keep things fresh and engaging. Talk to your nanny about what kinds of materials or supplies you can provide that would enhance the day. A varied, stimulating environment makes the time more enjoyable for your child and supports smoother, more independent play.
If your day includes important meetings or periods that require complete focus, share that information in advance. A quick check-in in the morning or a shared digital calendar can be a helpful way to align daily plans.
4. Trust Your Nanny’s Expertise
It’s tough to hear your child cry from another room and not immediately step in—but unless there’s an emergency, it's best to let your nanny handle it. Nannies are experienced professionals and your confidence in their ability to calm and comfort your child reinforces their authority and supports consistency.
When parents frequently intervene, children may become confused about who is “in charge,” leading to boundary testing or behavioral changes. If you’re unsure about a particular situation, create a private channel of communication—such as texting—that allows you to check in without disrupting the moment.
By showing trust in your nanny’s judgment, you empower them to lead confidently and build a stronger bond with your child.
5. Manage Behavior with Empathy and Consistency
It’s normal for behavior to shift when the family dynamic changes. If your child was previously used to you being away during the day, they may struggle to understand why they can’t access you when you’re home.
Talk to your child in age-appropriate terms about the situation: “Mom or dad is home, but he or she is working, and your nanny is here to help you.” Some families find it helpful to spend more time outside or take walks during the day to help reset behavior and break up the time indoors.
Be patient as your child adjusts. With repetition, structure, and calm reassurance from both you and your nanny, these new expectations will become routine.
6. Communicate Regularly and Revisit the Plan
The success of this arrangement depends heavily on open, honest, and ongoing communication. Set aside time weekly or biweekly to check in with your nanny. What’s working well? What could be improved? Are there moments during the day that are especially challenging?
Approach these conversations with empathy and a spirit of collaboration. Working under one roof requires a unique level of coordination—and even small adjustments can make a big difference in how smoothly the day runs.
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